A story on TV tonight almost made me gag; parents borrowing money they can’t afford to borrow, going in debt to send their precious little ones to private schools. Really?
The gamble is to get their child a head start on other kids in public schools with the hope they will raise an Einstein and they will receive enough scholarship money when the kid enters college that the parents won’t have any out-of-pocket expenses then; invest now, reap the benefits later.
Have parents lost their minds? The story shows a parent picking up an extra job just to pay the loan when she should be home with her kids, husband. What’s wrong with having a balanced family. Or, raise a kid without a family, they get the smarts, and end up divorced because they don’t understand the value of a family.
In today’s world parents are either too tied up in their work or their own life, and don’t devote time to kids and spouses, thus the larger number of divorces.
Parents buy toys for kids that have to solve math problems, have animals talk to them so they can wait in earnest for their first words; then they become teenagers and won’t shut up! Parents ‘push’ their kids to excel. I guess there’s nothing wrong with that, but after a day in school they push them to dance class, gymnastics, horseback riding, sports, not just one of two a year, but for each season and in between.
When does a child have time to be a human being and just play by themselves, or a few friends? Everything is organized for them, no wonder when they grow up they don’t know how to wipe their behind.
I grew up playing ‘pick-up’ games of football, baseball, war games, cowboys and Indians, get a bunch of kids and go at it; no yelling from parents if you struck out, fumbled the ball, or missed a tackle. No one to coach us, we learned by watching the better players.
Granted our school system was excellent; our graduates went on to become great leaders in many respected fields; not everyone was expected to go to college. My generation worked odd jobs after school and on week-ends, boys and girls. Our time wasn’t spent riding horses, taking piano lessons, etc. Nothing wrong with culture, but not every day, every week!
My generation graduated people who knew how to work; not the case today. Kids are too pampered by their parents, too protected, not allowed to fall on their face without their parents picking them up off the floor.
I say guide your kids, but give them some flexibility; cut the cord!